Stuck, I agree with you in theory but here he is, wanting her back. It is what it is. I'm the last person that should be empathizing but I do because we are all human and fallible (in that vein, she did cheat before)...I understand her very well but I think he still needs to operate from a very practical standpoint when it comes to finances and kid issues.
My sitch hasn't been updated much...not much to report but I'll post something soon.
A&K & Stronger,
Hope you don't mind if I chime in...LOL Seriously, thanks to both of you chiming in and caring. You two have been a big part of what's kept me sane through this.
It doesn't seem like there's much point to our rehashing whats happened, etc. I really get all that. And Stronger, It is big of me to forgive myself, and I forgave W a long time ago. What I'm struggling with is a path forward.
I love W. More than you can imagine. I'm also trying to love and respect myself. I want to be able to look back on this from my rocking chair and respect myself for the way I handled it.
Maybe because the two of you are well into a commitment of staying married and waiting this out, you've come to a more comfortable place. I'm not there yet.
At some point W has to come out of this low place that she's in. I know her pretty well and I don't think it's going to take too too long. Maybe a few months tops. Once SHE"S cleared headed I don't believe she would be OK with herself dating OM and seeing me at the same time. I think she would end our M or OM. That's just the kind of person she is.
I'm late...gotta run for now.
AKA: "Ben the school teacher" --- Me:45, W:41 | Ds:10,12&14 | M:18, T:20 Me: MLC+PA+WAS+Separated 10/08 My Request to Reconcile Denied 7/09 W w/OM 6/09-11/09
