Should we become the people our WAS`s want us to be or follow our own hearts-even if it takes us away from them...
Example: I`ve rekindled lots of interests I`ve had in the past-music, art, yoga, reading-problem is H has no interest in these things and actually, is scathing of my interest in them(though that`s part of his MLC anger/jealousy thing)
I'm sorry to hear that he is angry and /or jealous that you have interests he doesn't share.
In the event that you two are not able to work this out...do you want to give up those interests? I do/would not choose to give up mine. My H is not concerned that I have separate interests in my case, however if he was....(see above).
I personally think it is risky (if not dangerous) for a couple to be too insulary (sp?). Doing things separately and then coming "home" gives you things to share and time apart to re-charge as it were.
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One of his whinges is that we have nothing in common.
Yeah, Grace, I`m happy to have separate interests. And anyway, I think H`s cry of us not having anything in common is part of the MLC syndrome where they just keep shredding through all the good and bad of the M.
With saying that though I am going to pick up on a couple of common interests and run with them-cycling,family history this week.Somethings I would genuinely enjoy without H`s interest anyway.
I`m more and more ready to let H out of my life at t his point, as he`s determined now to go. So reaching a different point with all of this.
