Hey K... You say "My friends were wondering if this is normal, divorcing and wanting to spend time with "us". Of course he was totally into the kids but he did mingle and talked to the Hs of my friends and me some. I was distant but polite. OK, any takes on how you explain that? You divorce your wife, have a GF and then what...? You play happy family again? This just aint normal. At least not in THIS country."... but.. he's not D you.. he has never said he wanted to, he ddnt even read the 'offer' you emailed him (I guess that was a D offer?) for the past month and you got him to agree to read it. I know you are pushing for D now, but he isnt ! And when he says she is nothing to him now, I believe him and anyway, at least he talks about her now and admits it, which he didnt do before!! If he is alone and lonely and sees you are serious about hte D and feels you can never forgive him, I wouldnt blame him for maybe caving in and seeing a bit of her.. but thats becuase he is weak and I am sure not becuase he loves or really wants her.
I was thinking.. how about getting him to go back to the MC, for some closure sessions, seeing as he wont talk to you? Maybe you can talk there now, with all the facts on the table???
Al xxxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
