My H said he wants a D, I'm devastated!

[BeingMe]

Hi Chel! Sorry about all this, but it was expected, wasn't it!? Your H seems to be really unrealistic about how this will all play out. But, at this point, the ball is in your court.

Some questions you might like to ask yourself:

When will you sign, based on your attorneys advice?
Do you want to be friends post-D? Or, even now? (Some try for that, but usually only because there are kids involved, so your sitch is a tad different.)
Given all that's happened, would you give him another chance if he went off to Montreal and found the grass wasn't greener on the other side?
If you moved out, how would you feel if he had his possible OW come for a visit and stay in your apartment?
Being friendly is not being friends ---- always be aware of this because the way your H treated you, is not being a friend. So, just because he smiles at you and there's less stress, does not mean it is a true friendship.

I hope you are able to detach and move on because I think that would, ultimately, be the best thing for you. If he, one day, comes out of the fog, you could re-assess, but until then, hanging on to what may be a fantasy hope will not do you any good. Work on you, GAL, figure what is best for you, not him.

Good luck!