Our bed is 20 years old - we bought it just before we were married. I really want to get a new one - I have aches and pains many times in the morning and I know it is because the bed is worn out.

Since she doesn't sleep in it (much - she came back for a night 2 nights ago) I was just going to go out and buy a new one without consulting her. It might make her irritated, but then again she doesn't choose to sleep there so I am wondering why she would care.

Anyway, I am trying to figure out what to do. She is in this ' we can't buy anything ' state as part of her short-timers attitude related to being in our house. Therefore, I am thinking what the heck - buy the new bed and enjoy it and don't let her hold your life hostage??

ME/XW:47
S21, D19, S15, S14
M:21 T:26
W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12
W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline