What to do when H doesn't contact?

[The Wifey]

RedSoxFan hit it on the head when he said to journal instead of reaching out to him right now. With a journal you can yell at him, you can pour out your heart, you can talk to yourself, you can complain, all in the safety of him not knowing or hearing.

This is a long, long process. Nothing turns around quickly in these situations. That is the hardest thing to understand and accept. You can't even begin to imagine that you can stand it to last one more day, let alone months or years. But you will stand it.

You will do it by focusing on you and on your children. By growing and learning. By working through the pain. The only way through is through and unfortunately there are no shortcuts. But, DB is the surest path.

Don't focus on how long this will take right now. Just focus on today. Then focus on tomorrow. Then the next day and the next. Make a list of things to get done each day. Plan time for fun, even if you have to force your self at first.

You've done the right thing in telling your children that he isn't well right now. Now you need to be the strong parent for them, because you are all they have left. You can do this. I know you can.

I never imagined I could live a month without my H and our daily interactions that were so much a part of what made my days interesting and fun. I loved being his W. I was so scared of facing a life without that connection; how would I ever go on? How could he do this to us? To me? To my S?

Take this one day at a time. Fight the urge to put any contact and communication under the microscope to look for that one clue that will solve everything. They don't just "come to their senses." The only thing you can do is grow, so when H looks your way he sees a Lost that is no longer lost, but strong, confident, self-assured and attractive.

One day at a time.