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[RedSoxFan]

My wife and I both had affairs. Both during times when we were vulnerable to doing so. I forgive both of us. We both participated in letting our marriage get to a terrible place. I left my wife. I wish I hadn't but I did. Maybe 3/4 of the problems in our marriage were my fault. Who knows. I'm less good at assessing my own needs. Probably lots of my needs went on unmet. So now I've apologized, I've told her I love her and I've asked her to reconcile. Right now I can't really say how much she's seeing OM. I've stopped trying to keep tabs.

So I've done what I can. So now do I just sit back and watch and wait? Do I support my wife of 18 years financially and emotionally while she's with another man? Do I do this because I made mistakes? I mean lets face it. I did a terrible thing and Im so sorry for it but do I just live with the emotional pain of her being with another man because of it? If so, what do I tolerate and for how long?

If I love myself and respect myself do I really do this? Will I respect myself later? These are the things I'm struggling with.