I'll hop over to you in a second, have just got to work.
I don't know about being streets ahead, I don't even know if what he was going on about last night is any good sign, I found it all a bit bizarre.
Anyway I am going to vent a bit here so I don'trush and say something stupid to him.
Just checked out the jetski website he is part of, it is run by the same group that he rides with, my H is the chairman of the committee so heavily involved.
The have done their write up of the trip away complete with the usual photos.
Photos of my H dressed in a wig, tight as jim bean shirt on undone to his navel. Acting like an idiot dancing on top of the bar and then another one of him with hands on some tarts hips and her holding him. Now I really wanted to say something to him, but have held back.
Should I comment on the photos, he knows I will have seen them or do I hold my tongue.
I do hope that as Dudess and Nell has said that he is now realising that he may not be able to hold onto me and it is times like these when I see these photos that I really wonder do I want to hold onto him, is that what I want in an H. I know they are entitled to go out and have fun, we all are, but it shouldn't involve any disrespect for the person you supposedly love and cherish.
I really need him to know that but without him thinking I am trying to put a stop to him going out and having fun doing his GAL stuff. But I am not sure that this is the right time to say this as there has been no real R talk, only him last week saying he wants to work on "us".
I don't know, I keep looking at these photos and the more I look at them the angrier I become, that he even went near the skanky so and so's, but to even touch them and act provocatively in front of them makes my blood boil.
Oz, I have to say that I posted before your post about the photos.....it adds a different perspective. I'm not sure what to think really and need to give it some thought. Good idea for you to come here to vent rather than going to him.
Grrrrrrrrrr, still really really angry. He has the cheek to say to me that the skanks the others hooked up with was a vulgar sight, I think someone needs to have a good look at himself first, his behaviour was just as bad.
Okay, now have thought long and hard about all this. My S thinks the photos are so lame and bad it is hilarious.
I have decided to ignore the photos at this point but as for the conversation last night, still can't work that out, maybe Gucci or one of the fellas will have a better understanding of it.
This doesn't mean I am any less angry, actually feel rather repulsed by the whole thing now and am not really sure of my feelings at this point, I have seem my H in a different light now and am not sure if I like what I see.
Would still love to send an email or text saying "interesting weekend photos". I know, I know I won't.
Maybe I'm misreading this, but the photos may be nothing. I've seen plenty of normal, rational, allegedly upstanding men do something just as goofy if they get the opportunity to pose with models from Sports Illustrated swimsuit, Victoria's Secret, the Dallas Cowboy cheerleaders, or, God forbid, a Playboy Playmate.
I haven't seen them, so maybe they really *are* incriminating, but sounds like harmless goofiness to me.
As a comparison, if you got the chance to do a bodice-ripper style photo with Fabio, Antonio Banderas or whoever your favorite movie star hunk is, purely for fun, would you?
And, alternative #3 - what are the odds he got those photos taken and posted so he could make YOU jealous? (which would be a good sign, actually)
Last edited by Dia; 09/14/0905:16 AM.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
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As I have had a whole day to sit here and think before acting, when I look at the photos he is clearly drunk out of his mind and he has done this before but he had not crossed the line of touching other women. You are most likely correct and I am very touchy with things like that.
As a side note do you have any ideas about his conversations with me last night, earlier posts before I saw the photos.
Oh Dia forgot to say they aren't even anywhere near the standard of a model or anything remotely like that. They aren't even in my league. We are talking about women in the tiniest town you can find, kids to different fathers, out there just looking for a free drink and whatever else comes. No pride in appearance or anything. Believe me I am looking at the photo and we are talking the complete and utter opposite of me.
If the female in question had been of model standards I could understand it but this, you would have to be completeley drunk out of your mind.
Sorry just being a silly female, having a bad day.
