So far not sure...Friday night he called and said he was committed to giving this another try. I told him I was going to give it a try and see what happens (not going to trust blindly).
Saturday I was gone all day to the Renaissance Faire in Des Moines helping BIL/SIL out with their British Foods store. Ali, do you know what Hobnobs are? (oaty biscuits) We sold jam, tea, heinz beans, HP sauce or something like that, pickled onions, etc etc. I had a chicken curry pasty for lunch, it was so awesome! I had never had curry before...
(In case I didn't mention, BIL was born and raised outside West Sussex. He runs a British foods import business now, just started it 1 year ago.)
It is H's sister and her husband. Had so much fun at the Faire. Dan called during the day and let me know he was booking his flight to Canada, gave me the days and times, etc. He leaves this evening. He had Nathan with him all day and night for a boy's day while I was working, and Sydney was with SILs daughter all day while MIL watched them and we worked together.
So then he said he was definitely booking the retreat, but hadn't yet....hmm
Today he came to the house early and stayed with the kids while I went and got ready for church. I got baptized today. I already was baptized by being "sprinkled" as a child, but my current church believes in immersion baptism so that's what I did. Me and the pastor in the water up to our waists. It was really neat actually.
So after church we all 4 went out for lunch. Then we changed clothes and went out to the farm. We all worked together and herded the cows in from the pasture. Then the kids went to play and Dan and I separated the calves from their moms to load them on a trailer and wean them. It was the first time he has invited me to work on a project like that. One thing I said during his 'talk' about reconciling was that I wanted to be more of a partner in the cattle. So that was nice.
Then we had to go and he had to get packed up for his flight. He said he would call when he got there and he hugged me goodbye.
All in all, pretty nice. However I decided that I will go up and sign the papers while he is gone this week and have them ready to give to him when he gets back. If he hasn't booked the retreat and MORE IMPORTANTLY broken it off with ow, then I will be serving him.
I am trying to decide if I should tell him I am going to serve him if he doesn't break it off with ow.
Peter, by your comments, your first step was that she stop responding to any of om's communications. According to Dan, he has done that. He needs to do the next step, telling her directly that it is OVER, PERIOD.
I do not want to nag. That is extremely unattractive and makes the time we do spend together miserable which hurts odds of a good reconciliation.
So my thoughts are either I drop it entirely and if HE hasn't made the effort to tell/show me he ended it by the time he gets back, I just serve him. My other option is to say, "I don't want to talk about it any more, just know I will be serving you upon your arrival if you have not shown me it is over".
