Thanks guys! Well, I`ve three kids-S14(who my therapist reckons is holding a lot of anger;I can`t see that though) S12 who`s the most likely to ask questions(and fed crap answers by H) and D9.
I`m observing H with each of them(or more usually, absenting himself from at the 3 of them) and the effects of same.
Apparently, at this age, it would be very useful for S12 and 14 to have an involved father figure. So I`m working on ways to get that.
This is nothing to do with DBing. The fact that H seems more dtermined than ever to separate means its actually part of my S plan to encourage his relationship with the kids so that he doesn
