I don't know that I am the right person to answer this Nell. Can you cope seeing him again and will you be able to meet without holding out hopes for for than just a finance meeting? I know I wouldn't have been able to do this and still would have difficulty not over analysing it all. Do you have to meet or can it be done via email or phone? Do you have to tell him about your job? I'd be going for email and that would keep it business like. As I said I'm probably not the best in this sitch. You probably need to call in Gucci again or try Stuck or Dudess.
If it has to be in person, perhaps "There is some stuff we need to discuss. Are you able to meet this coming week? I'm happy to catch up nearer to you if it's easier and you would prefer not to come down. Perhaps we could meet somewhere?" Take out the coffee/dinner and leave him to make a suggestion
