UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach

[Eskimo Nell]

Just been making packed lunches and started to look at what's happened that is POSITIVE recently.

1) H threatened to get the house valued many weeks ago - this has not happened

2) H asked to speak with me about finances and, despite I asked him to put his thoughts in an email as I could not meet with him last week, that also has not happened.

We have been in limboland for almost 4 months now. What's happening??

Peronal Positives are:

1) I have two new friends
2) I have a temporary job
3) I have learned how to do some car maintenance
4) I have learned how to work the new lawn mower
5) I have learned how to weed and feed the two different types of lawn - and have done it!
6) I have fertilised the back lawn
7) I have knocked down the spiders webs and put up some spray to prevent more
8) I have cut the grass trees and done pretty well!
9) I have survived living here alone
10) I have managed the finances and risen to the financial challenges that H set for me
11) I have learned to deal with my friends and family and their unsympathetic, hard attitudes
12) I have learned how to maintain the pool - and done it!
13) I have managed BY MYSELF
14) I have learned that I don't have to ask H for everything I want - there are ways of finding out information from other sources
15) I am not so afraid of the night-time by myself
16) Our cats love ME - they no longer miss H!
17) I have lost 3 dress sizes
18) I can wear knee length highheeled boots and not look too old for them!
19) I can wear jeans and look good!
20) I have bought myself 1/4 of a new wardrobe
21) I can get my taxes done for myself
22) I don't NEEED H but I would prefer that he were here to help me.


Hey, I'm doing OK!