Actually I'm here in California too. You are right about the courts to a certain degree, although I understand that there is still a bias to some extent against fathers. Guess I'll be finding out soon enough.
Yes, it hurts to see the email but like everything else with my W's A....it's not real. I will be OK. If I do get D'd, I will be a great catch for some other woman. It's my kids I worry about the most.
Thanks for the feedback and support Hope.
I'm with you. I worry about my S sooooo much. Waaay more than I worry about me. I'll be fine. He is a tiny innocent victim.
What does your lawyer say? I am curious. My L said what I told you that the courts are not biased against the father if anything they really encourage the father being there more than less.
As far as the email s- I would be tempted too. However, I ask myself this when I'm tempted to snoop about the OP - "Do I really want to know?" Guessing is painful. Knowing is worse.
Do you really want to do that to yourself?
Remember, WE are the great catches. Is she really in love iwth this bozo, or is she using him as a fantasy to boost her self esteem? My guess is the latter. That's what gets me through the night when I worry about OW. I figure there's no way they are in love and god help her if she is stuck with him. He is no walk in the park. But having a fling can be anything you want it to when it's full of fantasy - not really knowing the other person. Not facing both sides of the person, the good and bad. When it's all mutual flattery it is not based in reality. It's like a drug. And drugs wear off, my friend.
