Got the call, didn't answer. Rang again, answered this time. A very surprised H wanting to know where I was. Have just got home to find H asleep on the sofa.
So at this point nothing happening here.
Did get some clothes out shopping though and had my nails done.
I think you come to that realisation that you are way more important than to wait around for a few crumbs to get thrown your way every now and again.
He managed to mumble a hello when I came home - 3 hours after he called to say he was at home - I think he is a bit put out that I wasn't sitting here waiting.
I think that you are right Oz - we are worth much, much more than that. I think that there are just moments when we give in to our feelings more than at other times.
You seem to be in the best place right now for making DB work in your favour. I am envious. You just need to keep on as you are - slowly, slowly catchy monkey!
Your H is certainly wondering, isnt he?? I bet his mind doesn't stop whirling. No wonder he was asleep on the couch - it's exhausting!
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
He managed to mumble a hello when I came home - 3 hours after he called to say he was at home - I think he is a bit put out that I wasn't sitting here waiting.
He has just woken up, looked at me and said how nice I looked.
Had on a new top and sparkly scarf I bought today, jeans and heels and I am hot to trot.
Asked me if I would like to have dinner with him tonight. As it is a pub just up the road I am dressed perfectly for that. He asked if I needed anything from the supermarket, so has gone to get what I need. Never done that before.
Will take it slowly tonight at dinner, will remain mysterious if questioned about my weekend.
Bet these spouses dont know whats hitting them when we start waving our best GAL under their noses, especially when the tshirt, says "you can look, but you sure arnt touching as I might be saving it for someone else" lol. Unfortunately I have to get mine near enough to notice first, but Im enjoying dressing up and looking good for me first of all!
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W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30
Once lost but now found and happily married again!
He managed to mumble a hello when I came home - 3 hours after he called to say he was at home - I think he is a bit put out that I wasn't sitting here waiting.
I'm loving this!
Old Oz took the scraps...she was convenient. Old Oz wasn't respected, so H kept moving farther and farther away. Old Oz took H's behavior personally and then felt bad.
NEW Oz knows her value, and is letting H swing in the breeze. New Oz wants the whole enchilada, not a few last minute crumbs. New Oz knows that H's behavior is about H, and she's taking steps to make herself happy no matter what he does.
I'm thinking H needs to find "New H" in a hurry.
I'd expect your H to make some comment about you not being there...and it will sound all whiny. "I'm sorry you're taking this personally, H, but I DO have a life of my own you know." Raise one eyebrow, the hint of a smile. He is...amusing.
You can do this. Make him work...just like you made him work back when you were dating. Your H needs to WIN YOU BACK.
Congrats!
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
