He told me he was going to talk to his doctor about seeing an ADD specialist. We talked some about that. I told him about a couple we used to know that are getting divorced, only because I had just heard about it.
He said he doesn't think "we" really have a problem, it's more like life stresses and circumstances and not coping with them well has led to our problems. And we just need to learn how to deal with things better.
Worked the rest of the day. A bill came in the mail that he didn't know about, so we had some more long discussions about that in the evening. I admitted to lying about it a few months ago with all the upheaval going on. It was an extremely uncomfortable talk, but he said he wasn't going to do what he's done in the past and tear me down, and that I've continued to forgive him and forgive him for his failings and he was going to forgive me.
He said understood that I was covering it up to avoid any more strain, and he was like, OMG, are you really that afraid of me? The issue was not ever what the bill was for, it was something he knew about (for our house), he just thought it was paid off.
Later he said, is this one of the reasons you've been so upset and wanting to run away and divorce me? To avoid all this?
Ummm...partly.
So much has happened and been talked about I can't include it all. But things keep moving in the right direction.
