Young couple in need of help

[sumguy27]

This is heart breaking. But with my mother being old she can't handle watching my daughter. My mom wants us to split the kids for now and for me to take my son and have her take my little girl for now. My mom is going to take a vacation with my son to CA to visit my sister for 2 months.

I hope the W will be able to handle that. I think it might be good for her also to remind her of her motherly duties. But let's see how it goes tomorrow when I talk with her.

[Stronger]

You think splitting the children up is a good idea?

[sumguy27]

I don't know if it is a good idea or not. But I only have one sitter. I already miss my little girl. I miss my family. My son is with me but I want us back together.

When I dropped her off she was very quiet. Didn't say much too me. I hugged my little girl and she hugged my son with no expression of remorse. I had to hold my emotions back as I wanted to begg and plead her again. This is so freaking hard.

[sumguy27]

Last night was kind of wired. She had called around 6:41pm last night asking about my little girl's rash cream. Then she kept trying to talk a bit more and asked to talk with my son. He was playing with his toys and was not interested.

Then she started to text me:

w:she can stand on her own a little now...plus she feels confident to let ur hands go so she can stand. Just letting you know.

M:Ahhh! Fantastic! I have been walking her around my apt for some time now to build her strength. That's great to hear. I wished we were there to see it.

(She has never texted me or called me about the kids when she had them on her week. I would let her know what she missed out though on my week. Like her first crawl, and her first time chasing me around my kitchen in her walker. My wife when she did come pick them up would try to repeat the event I told her at my place.)

text again later on:
w: Can u help buy diapers cuz I don't have ne money till friday

M:sorry just got back from the laundromat from down stairs. Stop by after work tomorrow at my work place. I work 12-9.

w: k


I did kind of back tracked a bit I think. I was giving my son a bath and he had his bath bucket, and when was trying to pour water over his head he missed and got me drenched. He started to laugh and I took a picture of him. And I took a picture of me. I sent the first one of him laughing and said "he is laughing because...." and then I sent the one with my clothes all wet and said "he missed and got me." She sent a text back saying "ok."

Well I don't know what to make out of it. All I know is I miss them both and I think she is missing us too now.

[Stronger]

See that kind of stuff is a fine line....I'm not sure what to tell you.

It could be seen as pursuing. But I think it could be a good thing with the impact of her missing you all together.

I'm not sure SG, you go with your gut.

[sumguy27]

questions. Ok so should I have the diapers ready at my office or should I take a break and go with her to the store and purchase them with her present?

[Stronger]

Are you serious?
This is what you are thinking about?
Have them at the office ready for her to grab and try to not even see her.

[sumguy27]

ok I just wanted to make sure that I didn't look needy of her or trying to spend time with her.

[sumguy27]

Well she called around 6:48 that she is on her way. She got here 10 minutes after.

M: "Hello?"

w:"I'm outside."

M"Ok I'll be right out."

I grabbed the diapers from my office and heading towards her vehicle. I said "hey." She then opened the door and and I said I almost forgot her suit case. So I grabbed that from my vehicle and put it in her car. The whole time she was having a smoke outside the car. So I lite one up too.(Yes we both smoke and I know we both need to quit.)

w: When is S leaving?

m: Either the 5th or 6th of Oct.

w: Well if he is leaving so soon then I want to take him for the next two weeks also. When is he coming back?

M: I think Thanksgiving. Or I will try to get him back before his birthday.(Nov 14)

W: No its fine. What about D? So I'm going to have her the whole time?

M: What are you suggesting?

w: What if you get her on the weekends?

M: I'm going to have to find a way to work it out. I work saturdays so its going to be tough.

W: Well it only seems fair if you take her on the weekends.

M: I know but I have to figure something out with work.

w: Ok well I'm going to go.

I then proceed to go to where my little fatty was sleeping in her car seat. (She is so chunky! lol 26 lbs and only 9 months) I gave her a kiss on the head and cheek. I then said "bye" to the w. In the most nicest way I could. and just walked back in the store. Man it was tough. Its tough right now. I was so tempted to begg and plead and make a point. I stopped myself. I wished they were back in my arms and I feel like she is drifting farther away.

On a side note I did notice her stress. When she doesn't have the kids man is she all dolled up. Even for work. Today she looked like she has when we were still living together. Hair tied up and just stressed.

[sumguy27]

Well I got home and my son was asking for mommy and sister. He said he wanted to talk with mommy. So I called her. She talked with him for a bit and he got bored. Then I went back to my old ways of calling her"nie" like hunnie bur just the end part. She said why do I still call her that? I said sorry bad or old habit. She then asked if he misses her can I take her on weds my day off. I told her that both him and I are going to be busy. I have a class seminar that I'm going to attend and I might take him fishing. She said well let me know by tomorrow. I just said ok bye and hung up.

What do you guys do when kids want to talk with the other half? I know I'm going to call yet she'll come up with ways to talk with me. I should have just hung up when he was done. Well off to bed we go.