UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach

[Dudess]

I want him to stop indicating when he's with ow as it makes me feel so bad. If I tell him to stop, he will know it's getting to me and that will knock me off my 'in control and don't care' perch.

Exactly. What the hell do you care? She can have him. Look what kind of a man she's getting.

Maybe I just don't answer but sit this one out and wait ... when he sends the details, just thank him for having done so. That would be mysterious but is it right ... I don't know?

I'm not gucci, but I am a follower. I would think just reply. "No one bumped me. Monday will be fine. Thanks."

I just wish that I could get over my intense jealous rages and control my desire to shake the living bones out of him and tell him to grow up and come home to where his REAL love is waiting to get things back on the right tracks.

Oh well, his loss Nell. Know your value.

If Answers welcome, PLEASE! Gucci, if you are out there .... !

I've been copying some of my favorite gucci posts. Here's one that might help you:

I think you know how, but don't have the confidence that he will actually chase you if you showed him the attitude of ....
"Who needs this? Not me, find someone else that will let you treat them like crap.. not me, I am not wasting one SECOND more on a man who can't be true and faithful.. ta ta"...

You can't see the strength in that? The reason it makes you MORE attractive?
That if he would let you go, that you really DO NOT need that from a man?
Self esteem and confidence will do wonders for how you think about these things

I'm getting so enraged and it's about time that I blasted him. His cruel actions are so alien and yet he knows that he will be getting a rise out of me.

Do NOT blast him Nell. It makes you look weak and shows you even care. He thinks he will get a rise out of you. When he can't he will wonder what is going on with you.

Hang in there girl. You can do this!