Well, I kind of milled around, pulled some weeds, shot some baskets with my son, played a game of Jenga witht the boys, etc. I spent some time sitting quietly with my eyes closed too, kind of dozing, but I think I still have a lot of sleep to catch up on.
W came home, and wasn't sure what to do with myself. Eventually we did talk. She's trying to decide what to do about her lawyer now, sounds like she's siding on keeping him. My opening a checking account really scared her. Dammit. Anyway, she still wants to mediate... or I guess it would be collaberate... and says she doesn't want to be naive
Anyway, we did talk about what the assets and debts are, examples of how we would share custody, how we would split things. Sounds like we're both agreeable to her taking the house and me taking the retirement / investments, as a very rough start. With us both staying in the house until February.
I asked her why she wants to be around me. First, she said, for the kids, then she said, I like you, you're still my best friend. She also said that it's going to take her a long time to not think of me as her husband.
Then we took the kids out for pizza. (We're not going to the zoo tomorrow, btw).
At one point, I said I missed going to the Mexican place next door, she said me too, and I said, well we should do that. She actually agreed, paused for a second and said "we don't have to be conventional..."
So I guess I've got a date, or something like it. I feel like a crazy man, going down this path of D and still DBing. I know my family all thinks I'm a fool. Part of me wants to cut and run, thinking that getting a nice little townhouse would be good.
So, trying to figure out my next steps of DBing while all this is moving towards February.
