Thanks Karen, thats about what I ended up doing. I didnt expect there to be so many triggers while hes here. My suspicion has been aroused several times, but he is behaving very diffrently from when he was still living here and involved with OW, and we are still having a good time, ML again, and hes cozying up in bed still, but I still dont know what it all means.

Still no R talk, I guess that I should let him initiate it? Or not, I dont really want to be in limbo anymore.

I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...