So sorry you are having to deal with this. Though I am new to all of this, maybe a MLC? Please tell your ages and sitch so you can get the kind of feedback that may help you.
Again, not really good at this yet, but do your best to stay strong for yourself and your S. THis all boils down to being here to help your R, but along the way, you realize that working on you is most important.
Hugs...
BIM M 39 / H 40 / S 9 / S 6 / T 20 / M 11
my sitch: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1828127#Post1828127