It's MY life now!!!........

[Silent Chrleader]

Journaling....

I had a long talk with STBXH, mostly about finances, but also about other stuff. There were some tough moments (about money issues) but in the end we came to a good understanding and agreement, which I was sure we would, but it was just hard to wade through the muck of our different perspectives and realize that neither of us was trying to be an a**hole. But we were able to get through it.

He said he was going to stop over at my Mom's on his way home to say Hi. He stopped there last week when my sister was there and had dinner. He said he just figured there was no reason not to. I said there was no reason at all, and told him that no matter what, I would always consider him "family".

He then told me that last night, at a birthday party for one of GF's family, her XH was there! They have been D'd for 20 years. Her ex is (or was?) a minister when I asked what happened, STBXH said that he stepped out on her.....several times.....with parishoners!!! The STBXH looked at me and said "I guess it happens a lot". I just said "Yea, so I hear."

I then couldn't resist..... I asked him if he has told GF about his affair with secretary. He said "No and I don't plan to. We don't talk about previous relationships and I want to keep it that way." I had to chuckle at that one. I just told him that so long as he is happy, or some reasonable facsimile thereof, then that was good for me.

On a sad note, S18 never came over and had his phone turned off. Though STBXH hid it well, but I know it bothered him. On a good note, D24 came over with GD to do laundry. She was downstairs while STBXH and I talked, but through much of our talk, he held GD and she eventually fell asleep on him! That is the first time he has held his grand-daughter for more than 5 minutes since she was born!!! That was very cool!