I did try no-contact before when I was talking to db coach and the same thing happened-he stayed right away. She told me to abandon the idea as limited contact on his terms was better than nc. I expressed my annoyance at his cake eating but she wasn't overly concerned (but it's not her living this!! She told me to act as if ow didn't exist. Guess this is what Dia has been doing. I could reinitiate contact and put no pressure on cos I think it's my pressure that causes us problems. Dia has been a fine example of moving forward slowly but surely with no pressure on her H.
The funny thing is that a friend of mine went to a meeting the other day and was asked if H and I were back together. I laughed as here we are in the longest nc period ever! Apparently somebody had seen us together last month and presumed a reconciliation.
