I have been out of town for a few days for work. H stayed here 2 nights with the dogs while I was gone & found they had no water when I returned! He had to bring his (male) roommate's dog over here as roommate was out of town as well. Oh well, they are still his dogs & we can't afford several hundred $$ for a kennel at the moment! I feel like he paid more attn. to her than our 2 pups - wonder how long they were without water. Also noticed he took our 2008 joint federal tax return. Great!

I interviewed 2 more lawyers last week prompted by Karen43's advice. Glad I did too. Thanks again Karen! Now I have to decide. I think I liked the last one best, she was also the cheapest. She asked if I had counseling, said I should not be pressured into doing anything on his timeline & I don't see why I should. He wants to move on a separation agreement, which can become the basis for a dissolution. I got conflicting advice, 1 L said not to talk to H about splitting stuff, 2 others said it's fine & will save $$, just don't agree to anything or sign anything before L reviews. It's just a big scary decision. It's time for lots of those right now.

Seeing a L makes me think about questions like, do I want to keep living here? And really I don't. This house is old, has issues like wet basement, mice (sometimes!) has a garage apt. to manage. Also I am on the other side of town from my family & a lot of my friends. H has said he doesn't want to sell house & we would definitely take a loss right now. And that's true. Said he'd live there if I didn't want to. I have been thinking this last few weeks about what I want to do. It may seem counter-DB to move, but it is hard living here alone - I'm always driving to the other side of town & am further from work. And I do want our dogs, so if I move I need to get a house or make sure I could take them. I appreciate anyone's input on this.

I need to get a much better handle on our finances, like how much do owe on house, in retirment accts. etc. Am still trying to GAL, and I appreciate all the posts from people that keep pounding on this is for me, not H or M. Because I get down thinking that H can't see my changes, he's never around. I need to really get that idea in my head. I feel so overwhelmed by all the legal stuff plus work that I don't think I'm paying enough attn to GALing. Maybe I need to review or update my goals & 180. Thanks friends for reading. I will try to catch up w other's posts as I've been out for a while. Hoping everyone is doing OK & sending support,
LFA