H, I am so sorry to hear this. I have been out of town this past few days for work & haven't been on the boards. What happened w your H is almost exactly what happened to me in Aug! All the sudden, after minimal contact since March, it was "we have to talk". Emails every day. He wanted to come over on the weekend & discuss what we'll do with our house & dogs. It's so awful I know. You sound strong & balanced and really in control though. I know how much this hurts & I too am trying to navigate through this horrible process. The above advice is good, & I also encourage you to talk to a L, learn your options legally etc. I know it sucks & I cried all the way to my first appt. but I met w 3 and it gets a little easier. I got good advice from Karen43 on my thread, I'll send you the link. I tried to slow H down but realize it was only making things worse. In fact Karen said it was close to pursuing. In my stich though ALL our finances are together, we own a house, have 2 dogs, no kids though. So H could really wreak havoc if he wanted. Anway, I agree, think of yourself, protect yourself. I still have not hired an L yet, I have to decide that pretty soon. H stayed her at our house while I was out of town & I noticed it appears he's taken our 2008 fed tax return. I am kicking myself for not making a copy. Anyway, you have been doing a good job of caring for yourself emotionally - now take care of yourself financially & legally. My H wants to do a dissolution which is way cheaper & faster than a D. Its really hard, I do not want him to file a D but neither want to sit down & do the 50/50 diss. either. My H said exactly what yours is saying. And I just feel like I don't know what he'll do next but I don't want to be blindsided with papers or something. So please take care of yourself. You have my support & prayers. Hugs to you, LFA
