Remember, beleive none of what you hear, and half of what you see. I would say that your W and OM are telling each other what they want to hear. I would beleive none of it, but at the same time, take steps to protect yourself. It's time to get all of you ducks in a row and be the adult. It's like having a teenager in the house!
Make sure you keep a record of all these emails if you can.
Formerly SGfan M:38 W:33 M:8 yrs T:10 yrs Bomb: Dec '08 Separated: 4/18/09 Divorce: 8/28/09 XW Affair began: April 08