That is a good analogy Kat. Probably the same way the "Greatest Generation" felt after Pearl Harbor or when JFK was shot.
Last night I got home from my work trip and W and I went to our bar/grill. We were having a discussion and W was contradicting me on a point even though she had just got done saying "I don't know anything about this". Well, in the past I'd have sat there arguing until she finally gave in and admitted I was correct, but not anymore. I said to her "I'm not going to say anymore because I don't want to argue". W got quiet for a few minutes and I broke that silence with a funny comment and the rest of the night was fine.
I'll admit I was in an wink, wink kind of mood, but W had a really bad week at work and was tired and I was kind of tired too from the long week away from home, so about 11:30 I told her I was going to bed and goodnight. I woke up at 1:00 and W still wasn't in bed and of course all those stupid thoughts go through your head when you've been in a sitch like this (is she talking to OM on the phone, is she on the PC?). Completely irrational given the state of our marriage, but not irrational given the past couple years.
So I came down stairs and there she was, curled up in a ball on the couch, sleeping away. I touched her and she woke up and I asked her if she was coming to bed, which she did. I probably should have let her sleep, but...
Got up this morning early to get S17 off to the ACT test and I would kill to get some more sleep, but the dogs won't let that happen so I guess I'll have to drink a gallon of Red Bull so I can stay up tonight and watch our beloved Buckeyes THUMP USC.
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Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.