Like I mentioned to you earlier, take it SLOW. Yes, your needs aren't being met, but think of it this way. When you were young and you were interested in a girl and she just thought of you as "friends", what did you do? You were her "friend". Because you enjoyed being around her. And you knew the only way it might go to the next level is if you didn't push and just enjoyed time with her.
Same way here. She might not be there yet, but her calling you excited about the baking is great. She's sharing WITH YOU something that is important to her. And that's the first step back.
When a woman (or man) gets to the walk away mode it didn't happen over night. And her coming back isn't going to happen overnight either. You're joking and the conversation is light and fun? PERFECT. Keep it that way. You're making progress even though it's hard to see yourself.
It wasn't long ago that I was in the same boat as you and I remember thinking "This is taking so freakin long". But a number of good friends here would point out to me the progress we were making. Most times it's hard to see that progress when you're so close to the situation, but us on the outside can see it.
Keep it up. Remember, it's a marathon, not a sprint. It's only been since April that you got the bomb. 5-6 months is nothing in these situations and I would venture to say that you're further along than most people on this board are at the 5 month mark.
Key is now, DO NOT PUSH beyond what she's able to give at this moment. Coach gave some great advice. Lure her back in. Plan fun stuff and tell her "I'm planning on doing x, would you like to join me"? If she says yes, great. If she says no, do it anyway. Now that I look back on my sitch, I can't tell you how much things started to turn around when I started employing that idea. She joins you because she decided to and there was no pressure from you. She doesn't join you, you GAL and that makes her wonder what she's missing.
Keep it up, you're doing great.
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
