"The psych believes that she was in a long period of normalcy or hypo-mania when we were dating and first married. Everything was great for her. The psych then believes she went through the depressive stage during the times I was acting selfishly. You could see how all this would cause a severe doubting of the marriage. Throw in my behavior and the fact that her subconcious is telling her that men will always let her down. I can understand why she would begin to psychologically detach and protect herself.
She is getting promotions and moving up in the workplace; she enters a new state of hypomania (hypomaniacs make very productive employees).
However, hypomania also brings impulsivity. This was great when W and I were dating. It makes life interesting and fun.
. . .rapid-cycle; this is when their moods swing from one extreme to another in very short periods of time (hours to days; and I swear I somtimes saw it change 3 or 4 times in one conversation). I was ignorant, I had no idea what was going on for 4 months. I think both her and I thought she might be schizophrenic at one time. She was seeing illusions and at times quite paranoid.
During this time, she has quit her job, planned to move (primarilly to get away from other man), got scared, asked for her job back, and decided to stay.
We have not had a really long stable period of time to work on things."
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wow, this is all the same with my wife. she insisted all year she hated her job and didn't want to go back and wanted to leave town, quit her job april 20 effective the end of the school year (she's a teacher at a little hippy charter school), and though i pleaded with her to hang on to it in case we didn't end up leaving town, she refused to even talk about it! then she leaves may 31, they're on the verge of hiring someone else, then suddenly she wants her job back!
i think that all the fun, crazy stuff we did when we first got together coould have been her being hypomanic, too, and our therapist agrees.
and yes, i've seen her mood shift a couple times in an hour, this happens especially when she's tired and we have to make a decision.
as far as i can tell, she's doing ok at her job. . . i don't know what that means, though. she tells everyone she's happy, but i don't believe it.
me 30 WAW 30 M 8 yrs T 9.5 yrs
3 cats 9,6,6
W left 5/31/09 W stopped most contact 06/26/09 W filed 7/22/09 (haven't been served)
