UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach

[Lost Rabbit]

Morning Nell, hope youre feeling more bouyant after a nice hair cut and coffee! ((nell)) Its so hard, we can try to mind read what they are doing and thinking. I can pick up tiny signals from H when he phones but I still cant guarantee that my H radar isnt faulty because of course he is now ET and is already doing stuff way out of his normality.

I certainly find trying to face issues before they come up a big help when I have to deal with them, although its gonna take "b*lls of steel" to not react to the OW if and when she comes up.. But thats just it my 180's are not to fly off the handle and do one, because thats what will bring him up sharp..Its almost like we need a check list of first time whammies to get through and then I think we can stabilise ourselves.

Its far too early to anticipate how much of your new behaviour is affecting/not affecting H, and also keep reminding yourself that whilst he is in the honeymoon period with OW he has rose tinted glasses on still, they might not have had their first serious bust up yet, and we all know that will happen at sometime and thats when you have to be there looking so good that he gets rattled. Keep reminding yourself that to choose the DB route is choosing the long game/haul. Also go read some of the posts where it has turned around but the LBS has finally decided that the crap just isnt worth it anymore, those are the ones that have really healed IMHO.

Will pop in later x