Hello Kittyfish & Sandi2!

[BigJohn]

She IS deluded. This is your mantra.

I dont' know how it works in your state, but here in California, the court wants both parents involved as much as possible and this means they want to have each parent have 50-50% custody. If she tries to bait you with L talk - do what I didn't do last weekend. REfuse to talk about it at all. Tell her whatever she puts in writing you will give to your L. And then talk to your L about your rights.

Any father who wants to be a huge part of their children's life should be. My L reassured me that the courts' main focus is the wellbeing of the children. And that means two involved parents!

Im so sorry you saw those emails to OM. God that would kill me. Anyone who thinks running to an OP when just reacting off of their spouse IS delusional. That's all it is - a reaction. Those brain chemicals someone was talking about earlier in the thread are for real. They cloud people's thinking. Try to stay calm. We;re here.

Hope,

Actually I'm here in California too. You are right about the courts to a certain degree, although I understand that there is still a bias to some extent against fathers. Guess I'll be finding out soon enough.

Yes, it hurts to see the email but like everything else with my W's A....it's not real. I will be OK. If I do get D'd, I will be a great catch for some other woman. It's my kids I worry about the most.

Thanks for the feedback and support Hope.