Why is it that when I pray the hardest, God seems to be on vacation?
Well, thankfully God isn't on vacation, so maybe it is what you are praying about. Not to pry into your spiritual and private time with God, but are you praying that He will make your W love you more or for her to feel this way or that way or that she won't leave you? Things along those lines? If you haven't been in a very close R with God, then that is probably why you feel He's not listening. If you are His chid, then He does lisent.....however, I think He likes for us to learn to pray for certain things in a certain way.....and that's the kicker for us. I find myself giving God advise as to how He could fix a lot of thinngs for me! But He has a way of letting me know that it is His business to handle things the way He knows is best, and it is my part to trust on Him to do it.....and to get out of His way!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!