Stitch. I am sorry to hear you sitch. I have a very similar sitch. The new clothes, can't pass a mirror without stopping, new underwear and the time spent on herself and no one else. The list goes on and on.
Reading about MLC is great help. That roller coaster ride is just starting so hang in there. There are some great folks on here that give some great insight and advise. Working on yourself and taking care of the kids is all you can control.
MLC, EA and PA all have similarities in how your W is acting. I have learned a couple of things from this board and my 7 month roller coaster ride. Patience, no relationship talk with your W, GAL and Read as much as you can DR And other books. Good luck and I will stop by later. Look around the board you will see some great advise.