The woman she is today is not the woman you have known all these years. She has changed. She is different and she is extremely unhappy. It is a giant step for the LBH to come to terms with that reality, but he must do that in order to be successful in his DBing. A lot of harsh things are said about WAW's, but as Michelle points out in her article, they have put up with a lot for a long time and finally they shut down and feel they have nothing else to give. Few LBH's are the perfect S or their W would not be ready to walk away.
Your W is very vulnerable for an EA. Of course she is going to deny it! Even if she's never lied to you before, she probably isn't going to just come out and tell you about another man. Most WAW's in an A have to be caught before they tell. If she is emotionally involved with another man, you will more than likely have to discover it on your on, but don't keep questioning her about it. I hope she isn't, but just brace yourself b/c many, many LBH's have said the very words you've spoken....only to find out differently.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
