My UFO (unbelievably fabulous observations)

[hoosiermama]

Theo--we have something here called "Theology on Tap." Sounds similar to what you were describing. It's billed as being for "young adults" which, technically, I have not been for quite some time--so I always figured I'd feel out of place, if I thought about it at all. I only knew about it to begin with because my friend the Official Exorcist of the archdiocese was once a speaker...on Halloween. But--might be worth looking into, for sure.

Been reading about abandonment and "abandoholics" the past few days. I suppose at some level I still think that if I find some "diagnosis" for how I got here, I will be able to avoid being here again. It worked to a certain degree after the first divorce when I dove into codependency stuff; it was very helpful, but pretty much mined that diagnosis. But anyway, I digress...it's a recurring issue throughout my life, and I married 2 men who were excellent at nothing besides abandoning me in pretty significant ways. And here I am again, with Mr. Emotionally Unavailable. With the good professor, it well may be a temporary situation, during the transition out of emotional abuse and divorce. And I'm not all that aware of feeling like I need to "rescue" him--which is a primary factor for women who get into these painful places. But if nothing else, I am learning about myself, my less-than-helpful patterns, and that's a good thing...if I can continue to focus on myself and not obsess about relationship.