Sleepover HERE arranged and confirmed with other parent - CHECK
Plethora of boxes piled on futon. Gosh, no one can sleep there - CHECK
Kidlet's bed - too much cat fur. My athsma, you know - CHECK
Hors d'ouevres ready to be placed on bar - CHECK
Supper for two planned involving H's garden (kids arrive fed from other house) - CHECK
Wine chilled - CHECK
So, the only way out of letting me sleep in the MBR with H is for H to sleep in kidlet's bed himself. And just so you know, the sleepover magically materialized while I was at jazz night. It was only an afterschool playdate at the other kid's house when I left. Did H set it up, thus triggering the whole bed quandary which he could then solve by inviting me into the master bed? Enquiring minds want to know.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
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H came home seeming happy, warm and almost - dare I say it? - tender. I got a nice, warm hug, some bowled-over appreciation for the waiting insalata caprese and eager drooling over the chicken dish I was preparing for supper. Then this:
H: Oooh, and you're even smelly! (my perfume)
Dia <mock indignation>: I beg your pardon?
(convo ended by nice warm hug)
If there had been a kiss or a tushie squeeze, it would have been just like old times.
I still had work to do, so he took his snack to the couch while I sat on the loveseat and finished up. He made a few, short conversational salvos while I was working, and I responded in kind.
So far so good. Kids arrive in 20 - 25 mins.
Edit: I added the juice of half a lime to the chicken rub. We have a mandarin lime tree, so lime goes in a lot of stuff around here.
Last edited by Dia; 09/12/0901:47 AM.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
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And yes, I *do* get to sleep in the master bed tonight, and yes, *with* him.
<Dia beams>
He was falling asleep in his book though, so he's gone to bed already. I'm staying up a bit later to keep an eye on the boys, but gosh darnit, I'm attempting a snuggle when I get in there!
So when he said he was going to bed, he was looking into my eyes. He looked and sounded vulnerable. He said I was welcome to join him when the boys were settled. I asked him if he wanted a hug. He said yes. It was another *good* hug.
And this weekend, while I'm down south, I am buying some more... alluring... pjs.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
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This all sounds very promising, can't wait for the next instalment.
I think I need to come and have some cooking lessons, I always like to read what tasty treats you have made when you journal here. You have inspired me.
We had a wonderful night. I did not need to angle for a cuddle as he pulled me into one as soon as I got in the bed. We did not ML. Instead there were hours of unhurried, exploratory caresses. We slept tight in each other's arms, stirring every so often to snuggle some more.
I'm still processing all of it, plus I need to get on the road to visit my grandfather. But as far as I can tell, what happened was very, very good.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
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