Newly Separated and Heartbroken

[ALJ]

Thanks for the advice and kind words stuck.

I have always been the saviour in our relationship. If H was in a bind or needed some problem solved, I was there to take care of it. I managed the bills, kids, shopping, and household duties and H had plenty of space to do as he pleased.

Now, he has walked away and things are not working out as he planned. He has no health insurance and can't afford to get any. He definitely needs it with his health problems (diabetes, high blood pressure) but there is nothing that I can do about it and he says that is the least of his worries. I was the one who refilled his prescriptions and mailed them to him. After the pills run out, he will not be able to get more unless he finds a free clinic where he lives.

Most of his bills go to his new address so I don't know when they are due and cannot pay them. He won't even ask how he can pay them online himself like I used to. He only pays his car note and then tells me when his cell phone bill is due so I can make arrangements.

I am going to back away from always wanting to help him when he gets in bind. I have to let go and let him realize that I am not the main source of his "unhappiness".