I don't think I ever believed for a minute that my Husband's MLC would last for years...but it did.
When I first found this board I didn't even register to post as I thought that he would be "normal" again in a few months and that everything would be OK again.
After several months of lurking, I finally registered.
Yes, it took years.
And thankfully he did return to the land of the living and things are good.
But standing for one's marriage whilst DB'ing and trying to handle the everyday crap that life has to offer can suck the life out of you if you let it.
GAL can be difficult too, especially if there are children or financial difficulties involved.
You do have to step out of your comfort zone and try something different, for yourself.
It doesn't have to be extreme.
Working on yourself has to be the priority, those changes have to be real, not a ploy to try and get your spouse back.
They will test you and watch you like a hawk to see if you are really changing.
They will push your buttons, say things to hurt you, tell you they love you, tell you they hate you...the list goes on.
Learn how to listen.
Learn how to shut your mouth and not defend yourself.
Learn that they will make many promises that they will not follow through on.
(((((hugs))))
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
