I know the feeling of not being able to attract H with sexy underwear etc. I went through that as well, it is only now that he is starting to take notice of these things, so try to stress over that too much at the moment.
Yes, GALing the best thing ever invented, the nights are hard and you really do have to try and find something to do, anything, start small if you have to work up to something bigger.
BTW you aren't a whinger, this is what here is for, to vent and get out any frustrations or whatever is bugging you.
