Give it to me straight!

[addie]

Your H is making some pretty lame excuses for not making that phone call. He is still very much addicted to OW at this point that he can't break it off completely.

It is a great idea to be on the extension when H cuts things off completely, just mute yourself. Him following through on this WITH YOU on the extension demonstrates real resolve. Communicate to him the messages you want OW to hear: he is committed to you and his M, his A was a mistake, he does not want her in his personal life in any capacity, do not contact him after this call in any way.

Oldtimer has given you some very good advice here and I've seen others on this site advocate the same thing. Those points should be made to OW - she needs to hear it from your H. You need to be 100% certain that H has made that phone call/sent the letter. Otherwise how can you ever believe for sure that he actually ended it?

I'm praying for you BBJ.