Time of desperation!

[Sugar and Spice]

Stephanie what does your gut tell you? As far as him telling people if things change you'll be a family again, what does that mean and what needs to change? What effort is he putting into making those changes occur? It takes two people to make a R work and if he is spending time with his "friend", then that is time that he is taking away from being a part of the solution to what is troubling your M.

I suggested "Not Just Friends" because it gives very good insight into the "Just Friends" phenomenon and how it can so easily move into something more.

Is your H confiding in the "friend" and going to her instead of going to you with things that happen during the day or for advice? http://www.shirleyglass.com/quizfriendship.php take a look at this site and especially this particular quiz and then take another look at their "friendship."

Sorry to be a downer, but if you want to see what a harmless "friendship" can to to people, read my signature and then go back and read my sitch. Not saying yours would be this bad, but take it from someone who has been through hell and back, don't take it at face value and don't take it lightly. If I could help someone not make the mistakes I did, this would all have been worth it. Also, if it is more than a friendship, you will have to reevaluate the way you "handle" him.