Karen - my W hired a lawyer that apparently doesn't mediate. This is the scumbag that filed all the court dates without W's instruction, and who reportedly works to increase fees with litigation.
We went to see the L that I hired, who does collaborative divorces, and has offered to mediate.
W now says she's thinking about keeping scumbag, and doesn't have confidence in the L I hired, who she thinks will be protecting my interests.
