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[RedSoxFan]

the agreement to leave her alone with OM if she doesn't force the D issue.

Explain please????

A little context. I left W almost 1 year ago. MLC+PA. Went dark for 10 months during which I slowly came around, ended PA, got PC, etc. Began seeing marriage and family in new light. Before I could act (was taking my sweet time and thought W and I were working on ourselves) I found out that W was seeing OM. Thats approx 2 months ago. I spent several weeks in hysterics, then settled in here and have been somewhat stable and in control since ;-)

So from W's perspective I came out of left field. I had been silent about everything all along.

Honestly, I was completely self centered and self absorbed...OM really put the fear of god in me.

When I showed up, OM put pressure on W. I believe he said all the usual stuff like, I'll back off if you want to be with h-i-m...no really I will. She said no I don't want that. He said you need to divorce. She came to me and said we should do the disillusion, she said she was feeling lots of pressure, she said everything was fine until I came out of nowhere. Dating him was light and fun and she was finding her footing. Now she wished everyone would go away. so I said I'll stop pressuring you about seeing OM if you agree to hold off on Disillusion. She agreed and thats where we are today.