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[RedSoxFan]

Seriously, what could RSF possibly say to her and actually be standing on solid ground about her "affair"?
I have to believe this is not an affair to her. This is a relationship post her marriage breaking up because HE LEFT HER.

I thought I told him what he could possibly say...???

"WS, I realize that I screwed up. I have tried to show you that I know I made big mistakes and screwed things up maybe past the point of no return."

"I have now realized how you must have felt, and I too now know that I can't make you love me any more than you could make me love you. It must be out of free choice."

"I have decided that I am not going to share my wife with another man. I have been doing some thinking and realize it could never work out unless we both choose each other."

"I will be filing for divorce so that we are free of each other except for the kids. Maybe this is for the best".......

Then he does exactly that. Turns and walks the other way... and LEAVES her alone.
No more pursuit after that point. She knows he is sorry. They do have a history together.. Will she risk the history if she thinks RSF is serious? I guess we would find out, wouldn't we?

IF... IF she says..
"It was your fault because you told me that you didn't love me"

His answer is..."I know. you are right, it is my fault. I understand and don't blame you. That is why I am moving the divorce forward. It can't work with us doing these things to each other..."

No matter how she attacks he stands pat on that type of answer...


AGREE, apologize sincerely, and tell her you are moving forward.....


What he is now doing is NOT working. Why wait around on things that don't work?

I have said all of these things, almost verbatim, with the exception of suggesting the Divorce.

Early on I asked her to not do the divorce, told her I loved her and told her I'd wait. [I shouldn't have done this]

More recently I have clearly stuck to my triad:

1. I did bad things, I'm sorry and I have forgiven myself.
2. I love you and want to save our marriage.
3. I am moving forward with my life.

There's just that little unresolved issue of the agreement to leave her alone with OM if she doesn't force the D issue. This issue makes my #3 ring hollow.