OK back to reality. Since the weekend when I confronter her about her other phone things seem to be going reasonably well. She told me she doesn't have the phone anymore, so I have asked her what happened to it - did she give it back to OM? I haven't gotten an answer on it yet. She never confirmed OM gave it to her either but if it was given to her then HE had to have done it. Whatever.

I told her (again) I am not willing to share her with OM at all and that I expect her to stop talking to him altogether, regardless if she is still deciding on what to do about the M. She 'claims' she isn't talking to him which I don't believe so oh well. It is about all I can do - I can't force her. I don't argue about it either - I just make my opinion known calmly.

Other than that things have been going reasonably well as compared to the past couple months. The tension level has dropped and we are having more and more normal relaxed conversations it seems. She is initiating things once in a while and telling me about thniga that happen to her - it is amazing that I notice such a minor thing as being important.

However, I know she has been perusing rental want ads here and there in the past week. That is OK - let her really think about life will be like if she leaves and make an educated choice. She has also seen a L and realizes that it is unlikely that we would be able to keep our home if we split which is damaging for our kids. I know she won't be happy if she bails out. However, let her understand reality and not just live in her fantasy world. It could help things but if it doesn't I know just how far gone she really is.

ME/XW:47
S21, D19, S15, S14
M:21 T:26
W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12
W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline