W was still upset this morning. So we talked briefly - she says she's thinking about keeping her lawyer. After the events of the weekend, and learning that I opened a checking account and put money in there, she wants the lawyers to fight about things instead of us. She says we can't talk about any of this without shutting down. She says she know there are bad feelings coming out, etc.
She's going to keep her L that supposedly filed all that stuff although she told him to do the opposite, and then he didn't give her notice of the court date? That same L? Cause that doesn't make sense.
Sounds like she's upset you're not following the script, rolling over and letting her follow her plan. I do think that's good. You haven't done anything underhanded, merely tried to protect yourself right? Nothing to feel bad about that--you should do that.
What does she mean by bad feelings coming out? Have you been mean to her or yelling at her or something or has she been acting like that with you? Then maybe Ls are a good idea. If not, then are the bad feelings just b/c you're not going along with her?
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We're farther from each other than ever now. The trust is eroding. She sees me as unpredictible right now.
You're not following her script. The trust is eroding; um I've told you this before; she's been lying to you, cheating, trying to break apart your family. She has eroded the trust in your R. If she's suggesting you opening your own account when she's already filed for D that you've eroded the trust--that is ridiculous!!!
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I feel sick. God, I feel like I've got down exactly the wrong path. Yes, I've shown her now that we're not going to be friends. I don't know what that's gotten me.
The one who's gone down the wrong path is your W. What have you done but not massage her yesterday? Open your own bank account after she filed for D? I don't get that. I think she feels more comfortable when you are following her script; but I don't see why you would want to make it more comfortable for her to break up your family?
