When we talked the other night and he got upset that I was pushing him, it wasn't about ow or the retreat. I was pushing him like I did last time and I acknowledge that. I started asking about us spending time together, showing affection, etc etc. Things that we obv. shouldn't be dealing with yet. We need to do the retreat first so that we can communicate and even figure out if we both really want to do this.
However, that being said, I DO want to know the plans re ow and the retreat. He said he though that the first weekend of October would be a good time to go on the retreat. That makes sense, I have plans this week, then he goes to Canada for a week, then it is our town's homecoming weekend when my son has to be in a parade, etc. Plus since it is a one-on-one retreat, they need some lag time to schedule it.
So, question of the day is, do I ask him up front if he has scheduled the retreat? Do I bring up the ow thing? Or am I suppsed to wait for him to bring it up?
And no OT I am not going to freak out if he stumbles on some part of trying to reconcile. But I think that avoiding the topic of ow is more than a stumble...
