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She sees me as unpredictible right now.


That's awesome news! This isn't going according to her plan. She expected you to just roll over and take it. Time for her to put on the BGPs. Show her you won't be friends if she divorces you - her choice. You want to be her husband ,lover and friend but that only happens if you are married.
It's also good she is upset. Means she is conflicted. You are being watched so you need to be confident, strong and wise. You can handle it.

Cheers

ps quit assuming the worst


M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12
Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.