Give it to me straight!

[sandycay]

Ouch MIkey that's a 4x4 for sure... but we know how you feel about Danny Boy! ;-)

BBJ,

I have watched this unfold and you need to be very cautious with this ending of the relationship thing. I learned the hard way and now its tough working it out..... I know I don't go into much detail on my threads but my H really broke it off with her because of something she did and at the same time I presented him with filing papers....

His coming back was a knee jerk reaction that plagued him for over a year. He never felt like he had the decision.... he felt like she made the decision for him and so did I. She might have but I didn't. I told him if he was talking to her and hadn';t told her it was done to not talk to me anymore unless it revolved around the kids.... no big deal to me at that time because I was GAL and moving on. But to him it was me pressuring him to end it.... which he was going to do anyway but I think he feels I rushed it because he was losing me .

Anyway, the road ahead is tough and my H doesn't have the track record of yours in the being "mean" category.

Here was what I said to my H... Done is Done

It's simple. Dan is not done .... he is cycling.... he may be headed for being done.. but he is not and his reasons and excuses are weak at best.

My H is still cycling .... dont' get me wrong... that's why I am trying to offer my opinion to sit back and don't rush anything and by all means.... don't get your hopes up....

but for someone who wants to be with you ... why in the hell would he put off calling her? There is no reason... Dan IS weak and until he can stand on his own (what I wish I would have had my H do) he will continue this cycle for a while.... and not neccessarily with another woman.... but honestly, just because that issue is gone doesn't mean the other issues are any easier. It will be difficult at best...

Praying for you and discernment to know what to do. I too don't think 3 weeks more is a big deal but please protect yourself....

Ot was posting as I was writing this... and for the record I was on the other line when he broke it off with her... he wanted me to hear it.....