For the last week H has seemed morose and conflicted. I have been leaving him alone about it and giving him space while still being generally cheerful/PMA when around him. I have not offered to listen or tried to get him to talk. In the old R, he sometimes found such attempts invasive because I could read him too well.
However, I'm also concerned about appearing uncaring and unsupportive. Should I make any overture at all along the lines of "I'm here to listen if something is on your mind."
That could well trigger an R talk, so I'm not sure I want to go there.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
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