I mostly lurk here, and I am in no position to advise anyone on ANYTHING, but if I may be so bold, you might want to take a look at "Love Without Hurt" by Stephen Stosny...not the chapters on his self-help program for abusive men who wish to rehabilitate themselves, but the "introductory" chapters about what living in an abusive (and he means emotional or verbal abuse, not physical) does to someone...how the years of "walking on eggshells" all the time takes such a toll. If I had the book handy, I would include some quotes from it.
